Let us at least begin to acknowledge that when we attend to an issue with the very pathology that has shaped the issue itself, we become complicit. The spirit of opposition with which we approach this monumental tragedy, our eagerness to dive into contention over...
For some, New Year's resolutions are an effective catalyst for welcomed change throughout the year. For others, these 'resolutions' become ammunition for self-loathing, a new piece of past evidence we will use to reinforce the story of our failure: the story in which you are...
In this war on terror, we must be vigilant to not be hijacked by our haters’ hate, to remain steadfast that their hatred does not belong to us. Love is something we have that they have either lost or not yet found. And as such,...
Learning how to effectively communicate our feelings is necessary to the quality of our relationships with others. Effective communication of emotions entails first identifying what it is you are feeling, clarifying what you are feeling, and finally effectively expressing what you are feeling. Effectively communicating...
While we can learn to control the intensity of our emotional experience, we cannot control the emotions themselves. Judging our thoughts and feelings as either "good" or "bad", can be both emotionally and physically damaging because it locks us in the cycle of shame. We...
Individuals often turn to substances in order to fulfill needs that have not been and are not being met. I refer to this as the coupling of deprivation and indulgence; an individual often indulges in response to deprivation. When an individual first begins using substances...
